How to stop negative behavioral patterns with our husbands
April 24th, 2008 by Mrs. Fussypants
I wanted to quickly share a favorite graphic I made that perfectly illustrates an all to common pattern of interaction in our marriages.
Quick tip- Complain about your job, your weight, your in-laws to your best friend, or at the league. Get it out and feel understood by your closest girlfriends. Women understand innately that this is a stress relieving activity. To men, that idea is completely foreign. Men want to take action and find the answer. The idea of venting and then feeling better with no solutions found is unimaginable!
When we need comforting from our husbands just ask for it. It is that easy! A great way to start is by snuggling up to him and telling him that he hung the moon and makes you feel happy. It’s hard to go wrong when you have a great soft start like that. Tell him that something is stressing you out and you just need him to be there for you. It is smart to be direct with what we want from our husbands.
Remember, no one is a mind reader. Be loving and direct with your needs. Let him know exactly how to make you happy. Sometimes we just need to be heard about a stressful situation, and sometimes we just need to be snuggled a bit. He needs to clearly hear if he needs to take any action at all. This will give him the tools to be successful.
The more successful he feels at making you happy, the more he will be motived to keep trying. Now that is a beautiful cycle!
Let’s continue at the League.